Trust me

Two really simple words. But I have finally, at 48 learned a hard lesson. No matter who says those words to you, with the exception of your parents (depending on your relationship with them), you really cannot 'trust' anyone.

I'm sorry to those of you who feel your significant other can be trusted, because one day, in a way you won't anticipate, they will betray that trust. I used to be one of those believers of people, that basically most people are good and will keep their word to you. But recently I have had my face rubbed into my goodness.

Someone that I loved and said he loved me, has taken advantage of me. He told me 'trust me' and I did. And to my shame, more than one time have I let him burn me.

I have learned my lesson, it will always be done the right way the first time, or it will be put into writing immediately and signed and notarized and filed away from where that person is.

It is a hard and painful lesson. I'm not so angry as I am disappointed in this person. And disappointed in myself for letting him do it to me again.

Maybe it is a jaded view I have developed, but I would rather be safe with a jaded view than left hanging in the wind with no view at all.

So, here are my words of advice. No matter who it is, no matter what it is, if someone says they are giving you something make sure it is in your name only, or they sign a paper saying should anything happen between you two, that they will keep their word. I know when you are in a relationship you don't want to think about something happening to end your relationship. It's like a pre-nup, and if that person was truly sincere and truly loved you, they'd have no problem doing that at all.

Protect yourself.