Thoughtful Actions

You may think that doing a blog on thoughtful actions isn't really necessary, but I really think it is.

We all go through our day, doing probably pretty much the same thing day to day and I think we get complacent in our actions. Even to those, or should I say especially to those close to us.

I've seen it with my family growing up, my mom and dad would be arguing and saying not very nice stuff to each other, but then someone would come over and they be so nice to them.

Now, while I agree it is important to be nice and good to friends and even strangers, I feel it is more important to be good to those we love. You've all heard the saying 'you hurt the one you love' but that doesn't make it the right thig to do.

And a lot of time the actions that hurt us are done without the intent to hurt us. But if you were to take a moment before you do something, and in the beginning it will take some effort on your part to take that moment, and think about what you are planning on doing. Ask yourself a simple question, 'will this hurt anyone?'

See it isn't a complex equation that you have to go through to reach the answer, just look into yourself. A lot of times I ask myself what would my reaction be if someone did this to me? If I don't want it done to me, then chances are good another person wouldn't want it done to them.

If you make a point to ask yourself those questions, each time you do, you will find that you will find the answer more quickly each time and eventually it will just be a habit.

This is a very healthy habit to teach our children. Children more often than not act on impulse and don't think of the repercussions that could happen. Like teasing another child. They may think that they only mean it in fun, but the other child may not take it that way. So take the time and talk with your children, specially now that the school year is here and help them to learn to ask themselves those questions. It is never to young to start.

We want our children to grow up into good, kind and responsible adults, that doesn't just click in at, say 15 years old, it must be started at the beginning, and we need to set good examples for them.