Alone time

No matter who we are, we all need alone time. I am having some right now. I am at a Java Detour and I watched 3 episodes of Desperate Housewives and now I am doing my blog. I know that there is only me and boyfriend and the dog in our home, but it is still important that people get time just to themselves. I think it recharges our batteries.

I have my music playing in my headset and there is no one here and it is like I am in my own little planet. It does feel good.

Even though it is just the 3 of us at my place, it is still hard to get total alone time. I cannot imagine with a larger family. Like my daughter, she has 4 kids and a husband, but she so rarely gets alone time.

I read an article about writing from steffmetal.com and she said that you should set a schedule to make sure your writing gets done. I think that holds true to alone time. Maybe you can't have it every day, or even every week, but I would really shoot for once a month at least. And I think you should be totally alone. I know friends are nice to have around, but then your mind is thinking about them. If you are totally alone, then you have the opportunity to really recharge yourself. Put it on your schedule, set a definite time for it.

It's funny how hard it is to do. I feel sort of bad that I left my boyfriend at home all by himself with the dog. But it is a rare chance I get to do this so I took it. I haven't thought about issues or situations at all. I was just watching a TV show and not worrying that the dishes needed to be put away or the bed made, or that there is something else I should be doing here, because I don't work here, there is nothing I can do but relax.

Who thought relaxing would be hard. It shouldn't be. We all deserve it and need it. So I highly recommend sitting down with your spouse or significant other and older kids and say hey, this date from this time to this time is just for me. I am going to go somewhere other than home, somewhere other than a friends, I am going somewhere I can be alone and I'd appreciate your cooperation in this matter.

And if you are on the receiving end of this request, know that if you agree, then you will get your time too.

So, get serious, find a place and time just for you, it will help.